Tell, don’t ask.

Do you ask permission for too much? Instead of asking, start telling. Change the language to make a statement versus asking permission.

Examples of how to tell and not ask:

Joining an initiative you are interested in:

• Tell: I am going to join the Diversity Equity & Inclusion team in the office so that I can use my leadership skills on a topic I am passionate about. This will take an average of 2 hours per month of my time.

• Ask: Would it be OK if I joined the Diversity Equity & Inclusion team?

Needing to rearrange your schedule:

• Tell: I have an appointment outside of the office from 12-2 PM on Wednesday. I have no meetings and will flex for my missed time by starting early on Thursday and Friday

• Ask: Can I leave for an appointment and then flex that time later?

My favorite words to live by: Don't ask a question you don't want the answer to.